NAVIGATING THROUGH CHANGES IN LIFE.

 Start over, do it again but in a different light with a new attitude. Heard that, right? I’m the expert in always finding myself in new terrains every now and then. I wake up and smile then boom, change is in my living room.

 

The series of events that hit you after change is what most people avoid talking about. Everyone talks about how they really had their fun days overdid it and ended up in therapy and now alas they are all anew. No one takes time to talk about how their first day in therapy or rehab really felt like.

 

I'll be direct and to the point, the first day in change feels like hell. You might have reformed and joined the religious crew, but your body still senses the change and loathes it. Just like with withdrawals and hangovers your body is struggling inwards and there are several indicators which show it all.

 

Do not prepare to have a proper first day or week or month but talk to your mind; tell it how much the end result will feel like home. Immediately you feel your body crashing and your heart shattering into a million pieces, rush back to what made you take the first step towards change and you will have an easier ride.

 

I have come face to face with change in my education. It has not really been my happy place but a place with some struggle I naturally thrive. Finishing high school though put me on a roller-coaster that has made me rethink my abilities. I had to change schools, considering it is the university level I had to start my years afresh. There are days I could cuddle myself up and tell myself how I am lagging behind and wallow in self-pity.

 

However, I realized something, the more I focused on my past, the more I was hurting myself. So, I sat down and wrote a list of things I had to achieve after my studies. Anytime the self-pity would come knocking, I would look at my vision board and it had me moving. The end goal is all that matters so always reminiscing on the good old days when you are experiencing pain in the new present is a self-sabotage.

 

Take a day off, or some hours off before you sleep, think about how good the olden days were, if tears come rushing do not hold back, let them flow. After having a good crying sesh, sit down and ask yourself what you really want to achieve in the new change, the present. Write it down, pray on it and start working on it. If you have someone constantly reminding you of your past and you cannot really control what people say or do, use it as a fuel to make yourself better. Drown in your work and not in the opinion of others. Make yourself better. Do you know why villains work tirelessly rarely moved from their courses? They came to terms to what people say about them; they hear yes, but don’t ever listen and dive even further in their schemes creating their best versions of ‘bad.’

 

That’s one skill we can learn from them, filter out the noises, focus on your new beginning and just take a step towards your goal. There is no worse feeling on earth than knowing you could have done something and still choose not to do it. So be your own superhero and save yourself from that.

 

Hoping to see you soon. Lots of love, embrace your new journey and do it for you, for a better you to people you love the most and who love you the most.